This morning I read the profile of a female slave who wrote, “I am broken.” More saddening is the fact that she states she is no longer interested in trying to become a Man’s slave, which is something she once ‘so longed for’.

She did not state how she came to be broken although she stated that she had too many traumas and due to her brokenness, she will never be quite right. Furthermore, she believes that there is no one out there for her. I feel so sadden for this beautiful soul of a woman who indicates she still hungers, crave and desires so deeply to become a Man’s slave.

I cannot conceive of a real Master breaking the spirit of his slave, because the spirit of a submissive or slave is what gives her substance. My use of the word, substance, is meant to describe her will and drive to go beyond the limitations of women in vanilla relationships by giving the gift of living unselfishly and exclusively for her Master.

I am a philogynist in the true sense of the word and I love all women regardless of how they label themselves or are label by others. I have arranged my love of women on hierarchical pedestals where for me; submissive women are placed higher than a non-submissive woman, and a slave is placed higher than a submissive.

While an argument might be presented where submissives and slaves are not to be placed on pedestals, I personally will argue that a submissive and slave should be placed in the highest esteem simply because such a woman not only has the capacity, will and drive to place a man before her in all respects of her life, she will defend her rights to do so for the sake of the fulfillment she received in her beautiful gift of giving so exaltedly.

A true Master understands that his or any submissive or slave gives of herself freely and in the purest of form. There is nothing fake about her love and her give, she doesn’t have ulterior motives in ploys or plots to get what she want by giving and/or doing what she thinks will result into her having the material gains a woman might seek; instead, she is 100% genuine in her desire to please her Man and Master, and she will literally do whatever he requests of her, or whatever she has been able to concluded will result into his happiness.

I have not mentioned the word sex until now, because while any and all who are familiar with the lifestyle knows, the range of sexuality in the lifestyle far exceed what is common in vanilla relationships. The point I want to stress here is sex is not the heart and soul of a submissive slave, nor is it her kneeling on knees, or her willingness to accept punishment of spanking or by whatever other means her Master decides to employ. It is her desire to be fashioned and reshaped into the form her Master desires for the pleasure and pleasing of her Master. All that she does is done willingly and as a gift of pleasure and delight of her Master. So why a Man or Master would want to break a submissive or slave is beyond my ability to comprehend.

From my perspectives, no greater gift can be given to a Man or Master than the complete devotion to his happens from woman who submits to him completely as his slave, to own and do with as he pleases. And for that reason, a real and true Master will treasure, protect, shelter, provide for, defend, teach and train, love and respect his slave above all else, because she is indeed the most valued asset of his life… She is his life!

Written to me in response to my reply to the profile of a younger woman was, “You must be dreaming to think that I would be interested in a man of your age and disposition.” I did not reply back to her because her mind was set. However, my thoughts were as follows: Dreams such as those which I hold are constructs in the process of materialization. For me to insure complete materialization, my dream must be pursued relentlessly with passion and knowledge, not mere belief, that I have the metaphysical capacity to cause that which I see in my mind to materialized into true reality.

As sentient beings we are capable of many times more than the day to day struggle of life.

We are the architects of all that happens in our lives and we can control our achievements in our pursuits of love and happiness.

We have the awesome power to manifest our specific dreams into reality if we so choose to do so or to allow circumstance to produce random realities if we do not chose to manifest the reality we want. Most people do not realize that we are the architects of our own ‘life constructs’ and when our lives are not as we want it to be, it is because we have not put effort into the constructs of our lives and have left those constructs to the resulting consequences of causes and effects.

I have read the profiles of many women who have written that they have basically given up on their search for the man they were hoping to be discovered them or for the man of whom they had hoped to meet and engage in the relationship of their dreams and desires.

My dear woman (and I am addressing all of the women who have written ‘they are giving up’) you should not abandon the pursuit of your dreams just because among the men you have so yet met, you have not met the man you are seeking.

I will, without a hint of doubt discover the woman of my search and we will engage ourselves in the relationship of our dreams. To that end I am resolute because I know that I am the architect who has built the dream that will manifest into my reality.

You might be asking, if the above is true then in pursuit of the woman of my search and in my choosing to respond to the profile of the woman who inspired this writing, what happened in reference in the statement that dreams are constructs in the process of materialization? As sentient beings, creators and architects of our specific realities, why did I receive her rejecting reply to my response to her profile?

The woman, herself, is not the specifics of the dream that I have constructed, no of the dream which I know will eventually manifest into reality. She was simply one of the millions of potentials that exist by way of her embracement of the lifestyle to which the woman I am seeking subscribes.

I did not choose to respond to her profile based upon her photos of which there were none. I responded to her profile based upon what she had written in her profile; words and statements which were aligned with the nature of the woman represented in the construct of the dreams that I am in the process of manifesting into reality.

The secret to causing dreams to manifest into reality is visioning and concentrating on the substance of the dream rather than the container in which the manifested reality will be held.

In my search, my woman has no shape or form. She can be tall or she can be short. She can be skinny or she can be overweight. She can be young or she can be old. She can be radiantly beautiful or of average looks. She can be of any race and ethnicity.

The physical construct of any woman might serve to attract my attention to her if I was to see and meet her in a pubic setting, but my search for her is on the Internet for a woman of a specific mentality embracing a specific lifestyle. What I can see of her with my eyes is not the inner being which I want to know. My eyes are not capable of seeing her spirit; the most integral aspect of her being and her substance which will deliver me the satisfaction in the relationship of my dreams which are in the process of manifestation.

For all of us searching, we must have and maintain patience, tenacity and perseverance in knowing our dreams are indeed in the process of manifestation and they will become a physical reality resulting into the love and happiness in the relationships we are all seeking.

There is a lot that I intend to write about on the lifestyles of BDSM, D/s and M/s, particularly as it pertains to me, my experiences, and the things I have learnt over the years. I intend to touch upon the changes that I have seen since the days of my introduction to M/s, but more so, I intend to write about how a submissive or slave would interact with me and my life, and I with her and her life.

I do not intend my writings to be seen as a manual or users guide to the lifestyle. My thoughts, opinions, direction, et cetera are my own, as are my experiences. The individual perspectives I have on the lifestyle may not be applicable or in agreement with the perspectives of others.

For most of us, our beliefs and views, thoughts and perspectives, and manners and means of doing something is based upon our introduction to whatever it is we have aligned ourselves to. This is certainly true for me in the lifestyle. My introduction goes back to my early twenties and was by a slave who was more than twice my age. She was introduced to the lifestyle when she was 15 by a European Master who was nearly twice her age and whom she served for more than 30 years before his passing.

She was very frank and straightforward with me on her intent of creating through me, a Master of whom she could, would and did server. I was captivated by her aurora, her demeanor, her poise, her movements and mannerism, and even the inflections of her speech. Upon coming to understand what she wanted to do, I became immediately and exceptionally eager to become her apt and astute pupil. Where we ventured in the 4 years of my life with her was on a destiny that continues even through today, even though she passed many years ago. Combined with the lifetime journals of her Master and her hands-on construction, and all that I have amassed over the years, it is evident that I have a lot of volume. It should also be evident that like a fully grown tree and the curvature of its limbs and branches, I too have a fixed ideology and mentality of what constitutes being a Master and living the M/s lifestyle.

I am 100% heterosexual and I have gone (as far as I know) just about everywhere a man can go in his sexual exploits and activities with a woman. Run the list of sexual activities that pertain to D/s, M/s and BDSM, and I’ve going there and done it. Like most, I have preference and hard limits, but most importantly, I have the experience and skills necessary to deliver my submissive to subspace and return her safely to normalcy. I have explored and become proficient in arts and skills like Yoni massage and more, and can do things to a woman with a simple tool (and there are many in my arsenal) like artist paint brush that can nearly drive a woman insane with climatic exotics. Nevertheless, sexuality is a secondary aspect of M/s as far as I am concerned. There is so much more, and I and my relationships are about that so much more.

The pages that I intend to write are about that ‘so much more’, and the purpose of writing them is to inform the submissive or slave (her label is of no importance) of the life and purpose she can expect to share with me.

I am not going to be seen as the ideal or perfect Master for any woman, submissive or slave other than the one whose perception of my ideal or perfect M/s relationship fits her perceptions as well. That is the way it is supposed to be and that is the way I want it to be. All of the pages that I intend to write may appear discerning, disagreeable, conflicting and/or totally unacceptable to the many who might happen to read them. But, they will not be written for the many, rather for the one.

A final note: When I have completed all of the pages that I intend to write, I will post that I have completed this project. In the meantime, if you happen to visit my blog you might consider checking back every few days or so for new pages. Also, feel free to comment if you want. I will moderate comments, so no hard feelings if they are not approved.

Knowing with absolute certainty what you want and what you want to accomplish is the first step in achieving one’s desires. Knowing what is required is the second step. Tenacity, resolute, patience and perseverance are the third step.

I will be sending replies to a countless number of submissives who have posting of websites catering to the D/s—M/s lifestyle. I will attempt to redirect them to this blog where they will be able to read all that I will have written and will write, so that they may gather insight into me, my thoughts and feelings, purposes and my ultimate goals.

Many of the submissives receiving my reply will view my profile on the website where they are found and be immediately disinterested in me for a variety of reasons, such as my age, race, location and/or lack of inclusion of the words they are hoping to read in my profile and/or reply.

That’s okay and to be expected. Only one submissive share my views, outlooks, pattern of thoughts, objectives and goals, and have the same desires of purpose that I have. She is the only submissive that I am looking for and I am absolutely positive that she will appear. All others will be steps in the process of finding and connecting with her.

The exterior construct of the submissive I am seeking is of lessor important to me. Her age, looks, height, weight, etc. has no meaning when compared to her inner being. Likewise, my exterior construct has no meaning when compared to the joy and happiness of love we will share.

Her visions are the same as mine; a tightly integrated relationship of synchronistic harmony and balance in the polarity of Dominant/submissive, Master/slave with meaning, purpose and most of all love which will be known and felt throughout our entire beings.

I am totally versed in all aspects of the D/s—M/s lifestyle and while I am not placing emphasis of subjects pertaining to BDSM, that does not mean such will not be included in our relationship. BDSM will certainly be included because that is an aspect of D/s—M/s which I truly enjoy. And, since BDSM is an integral part of the lifestyle, I do not feel that I need to place emphasis on it. What is of more importance is the mindset of the submissive I am seeking as she relates to wholesomeness of our relationship as a whole.

My pages are not composed to my complete satisfaction. I am not offering this statement as an apology for my writing and grammatical skills, rather, as time permits, I may return to my pages to edit and where deemed necessary, rewrite some of them to add emphasis to what I mean to say. At this juncture, my goals are to simply produce information giving insight into me and my ultimate goals.

~More to come…

Somewhere there is a woman searching for me,
and I for her, wherever she might be.
We’ve never met; I don’t know her name
or her circumstance, but my needs for her remain.

Her face is indistinct, difficult for me to see
the rhythm of her heart, I know its beat.
I know her well; I have always felt her love
ever present in my mind, she I’m always thinking of.

Her thoughts on love are profound
by conventional standards she is not bound.
Questions of age, race and looks are meaningless,
true and real love is her souls’ quest.

Her understanding of life has clarity
my uniqueness of Being is what she expects to see.
She’s not judgmental, so I don’t have to hide
there is nothing about me she will criticize.

Harmony and balance is what we both seek
growth together with synergy.
Wherever I lead, she will follow me
she knows of her I’ll take ultimate responsibility.

I will protect her and provide security
she can depend on me to defender her fearlessly.
Faith, hope and trust are my veracity
she will never have concerns of my loyalty.

She will never feel lost, wondering what she should do
to be sure our love and happiness rings true.
Our love will be strong without vulnerabilities
without weaknesses and human frailties.

We will always communicate honestly and freely
without fear of ridicule or of one of us becoming angry.
We will never raises our voices in discuss or frustration
and neither of us will coward in capitulation.

We are united by an imprint of the two of us sharing
boundless love, in love everlasting.
She and I are one love, we are one soul,
both patiently waiting for time to unfold.

For the day when we meet, that day of bliss
when we share our first loving kiss.
To begin the sharing of our togetherness,
in loves’ blessed happiness.

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